For Good Girls Only
Good Girls are women who take a lot of personal responsibility, which is actually a great quality, UNTIL it’s done to excess. We are smart, sweet, helpful, humble, and kind.
But we aren’t supposed to be TOO smart, happy, or successful. We’re certainly not supposed to talk about it (that’s bragging and it’s bad), and we generally think we should be polite, civil and forgiving.
In fact, being a Good Girl is exhausting. Often we believe that we are supposed to have certain feelings and not other ones (like anger), and we’ve been accustomed to intuiting and overvaluing how other people feel rather than having direct conversation that might lead to conflict.
When personal responsibility becomes self-censure, when we believe some feelings are “unacceptable,” and when we value keeping the peace over expressing our needs, then we have a problem. This self-repression can result in depression, anger, anxiety, and general life suckiness.
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Working with me, you can access your true self, while learning to practice clear and open communication with partners, bosses, children and parents.
As a recovering Good Girl myself, I know how hard it is to make personal change while in a relationship and with close family and friends. Generally, people expect us to stay the same, even if we’re constantly fighting, crying, or silently feeling stifled. But change in relationship IS possible.
How Can a “Good Girl” Get Better?
What we recovering Good Girls need most is the freedom from worrying about what everyone else will think. That’s NOT to say that we stop caring about our loved ones or being concerned about our impact.
It’s to say that we need to stop splitting off parts of our selves, stop stashing the “unacceptable” feelings in the side drawer. We feel how we feel. Period.
What we can learn to do differently is speak up for those feelings in ways that nurture our relationships. We can learn how to have healthy conflict that doesn’t involve avoidance and surrender. And most of all, we can learn how to REALLY receive support, so that we are truly full.
Want more?
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Consider one of my support packages
| Good Girl Special: A package created especially for supporting you along the bumpy road to your authentic Self in relationships. Finding your inner voice, healing from past trauma, and finding new balance in your relationships takes a lot of work. It takes both healing experiences AND ongoing, habit-changing commitment to stop hiding your light. Also includes free attendance at my monthly Family Constellations workshop, a Thought of the Day (TOTD) shirt of your choice, and a guided meditation CD. 4 90-minute sessions per month for 3 months |
| Girlfriends Friendship Saver 4-Pack: This package is for friendships that are on the rocks. Good Girls were never really trained how to handle conflict with anyone, but to avoid it instead. Healthy friendships need to allow space for disagreement and compassionate ways to tell our friends anything we’ve been withholding. If you’ve ever wished you could have couples counseling for you and your friend without it being weird, this is it! Four 90-minute sessions: $599 |
| Mother-Daughter Bonding 6-Week Special:
Good Girl behaviors are passed down from mothers to daughters, and conflict can arise when daughters push for their independence (no matter what age they are). Whether you’re a daughter wishing you could really be seen by your mom, or a mother wishing to reconnect with your daughter, this six-week package will bring your relationship healing. |
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