Posted by Rachel in moment of zen | 0 Comments
You’re Not Too Old To Be Where You Are
“I should’ve figured this out by now.”
Of all the beliefs my varied clients have, this is the most common. It doesn’t matter if the speaker is 65 or 25, everyone seems to think they should be more advanced, more wise, more mature than they are in the present moment.
When we use the word “should,” we’re often invoking someone else’s value system (eg. our parents’, our spouse’s, our culture’s). And not fitting into this imposed value system leads us to shame ourselves.
If you’re suffering from the “I’m too old to still be working on this problem” mentality, let me pass along what I tell every one of my clients:
- Everyone I see thinks this, regardless of age.
- All you have is now, this moment when you’ve finally grokked the issue and are ready to make a change…how could you have changed anything before this moment of full realization?
- There is no one right path to healing; your way was the right way and time for you.
The truth is, there’s no point in blaming yourself for not getting here sooner. Then you just feel like a jerk AND still have work to do to fix the issue. So how about practicing some self-forgiveness so you can do the work with love in your heart rather than shame?
